Did you think everything was just fine in your marriage? Were you content and happy? Being blindsided by your partner’s request for a divorce is traumatic. If you didn’t know they were unhappy or ready to call it quits, you can feel immobilized and off-kilter. But you can survive.
Get a Good Attorney
You may feel knocked off your feet or completely shocked by your partner’s request for a divorce, but if you can’t do anything else just yet, at least do one thing – retain an experienced Michigan divorce lawyer immediately. You need to know that someone is in your corner from the start. Even if you’re feeling incapable of moving ahead just yet, your attorney will guide you in the next steps.
Mourn Properly
Divorce is, for all intents and purposes, a death. The death of love, of a marriage, of a future you envisioned for yourself and your partner and your family. It’s important to take time to grieve this loss. You may not want to acknowledge everything that has died because of your split, but the sooner you face these realities, the sooner you can accept them and move on.
Develop a Support System
When you’re going through a divorce, you need a key group of people you can rely on at all times for your ever-changing needs. Friends can support you, therapists can guide you and give you action points, and financial experts can help you figure out how to start fresh. Know who you need and when, so you can get the care you need at all times.
Disengage
To effectively deal with the business of divorce, you need to learn how to disengage from the emotional side of things. While this isn’t an easy feat to accomplish, focusing on the logistical elements without allowing your feelings to get involved will help you achieve a divorce settlement that is both satisfactory and fair. If you can take the emotions out of your divorce proceedings, you can win.
Focus on What’s Important
If you have kids or pets, focus on what’s most important – the health and happiness of those around you. Be the best parent you can be and prioritize your children and the well-being of those you love. Having somewhere to focus will help you through your divorce. If you have a career you adore, give it your all – know that this job you love is there for you even in the most challenging times and that you can excel at what you do even if your marriage is over.
Take Care of Yourself
You may be tempted to wallow in the aftermath that is the blindside of your divorce, and there’s nothing wrong with doing this – temporarily. But make it a priority to take care of yourself so you’re physically and mentally ready to fight the good fight and get the divorce settlement you want. Develop an exercise routine and stick to it. Make sure self-care fits into every day, for at least a few moments but, ideally, for longer. Prioritize yourself and your needs so you can be there for your kids and yourself when your spouse is out of the picture.
Get the support you need from the experienced Michigan divorce attorneys at Michigan Divorce Help in Macomb County. Contact us today to schedule your free initial consultation.