Selfies are a popular cultural trend. We take these photos anywhere and everywhere to document our lives, from the biggest events to the smallest occurrences. And now, the divorce selfie is on the rise.
What is a divorce selfie? It’s simple: A former couple photographs themselves post-divorce – happily – and posts it on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or any other social media site for their friends, family, and, potentially, the world to see, share, and comment on. Over 38,000 people have shared Sharon Neuman’s recent divorce selfie on Facebook and supported her and her ex-husband’s positive approach to the future. Searching for “#divorceselfie” will return thousands of results.
And, it would seem, this is one hashtag trend that’s permeating society in a good way.
Moving Forward Positively After Divorce
Most selfies are taken proudly and they’re photos you want to share and talk about and admire. Divorce selfies automatically infuse what is considered a typically negative situation with a bit of optimism. Couples are saying, “Hey, we’re divorced – and we’re going to be good at it.” Whether it’s for the sake of the kids or their pet or just their determination to be better people and move forward with a friend rather than an enemy, this mindset just might make divorce easier to manage logistically, mentally, and emotionally.
The divorce selfies are captioned with comments like “We still make a great team” and “Happy to be friends,” but they’re not just couples trying to be cool for the sake of a trending hashtag. Divorce can bring incredible relief for couples whose relationships have been fraught with tension and sadness and fighting. Knowing that the divorce is final and that this part of their life has finally drawn to a close can fill people with hope about what comes next. If the divorce was settled on a good note rather than a bad one, that can imbue people with even greater feelings of optimism, acceptance, and self-confidence.
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Accepting Your Divorce for What It Is
Of course, not every divorcing couple will find themselves in the position of being able to boast about their pleasant split. Even though Michigan is a no-fault divorce state, couples know that there is something that went down in the marriage that wasn’t right and it’s not always easy to let go of the bad stuff, be it anything from infidelity to financial problems.
But when you’re on good terms with an ex-spouse or soon-to-be former spouse, that can save you from a long legal battle, dozens of mediation meetings, and prevent your children from feeling like pawns in an ongoing battle. Your divorce journey won’t be a constant treat, and there will be hard times to struggle through no matter how amicable you and your ex are, but seeking a good end goal can be to your benefit.
And if wanting to be part of a trend makes you work a little harder to have a happier divorce, then let the hashtags continue! Contact Michigan Divorce Help in Mt. Clemens, MI, with all of your divorce questions or to schedule a consultation. We are happy to help you have a happy divorce.